When Diane, a psychologist, falls in love with Charles, a charming and brilliant psychiatrist, there is laughter and flowers–and also darkness. After moving through infertility treatments and the trials of the adoption process as a united front, the couple is ultimately successful in creating a family. As time goes on, however, Charles becomes increasingly critical and controlling, and Diane begins to feel barraged and battered. When she is diagnosed with aggressive breast cancer, Charles is initially there for her, but his attentiveness quickly vanishes and is replaced by withdrawal, anger, and unfathomable sadism. What Diane previously thought were just Charles’ controlling ways are replaced by clear pathologic narcissism and emotional abuse that turns venomous at the very hour of her greatest need. A memoir and a psychological love story that is at times tender and at times horrifying, Lost in the Reflecting Pool is a chronicle of one woman’s struggle to survive within–and ultimately break free of–a relationship with a man incapable of caring about anyone beyond himself.
As part of the BookSparks Magic of Memoirs Tour 2017, I’ve been provided with several memoirs to read and share with all of you. Today’s post is on the book, Lost in the Reflecting Pool by Diane Pomerantz.
This was a very interesting read – Dr. Diane Pomerantz is a clinical psychologist who shares her story with readers in Lost in the Reflecting Pool exactly how easy it is for anyone to get drawn in by a manipulative person like Charles (the pseudonym used for her ex-husband) regardless of their education.
When Diane meets and falls in love with Charles, she sees him as a charming and brilliant man. Charles showers Diane with flowers and laughter while at the same time he is very dark. As time goes on, Charles seems to be more critical and controlling of Diane. Even when Diane goes through aggressive breast cancer, Charles becomes withdrawn and angry instead of being a supportive husband.
As time goes on, it becomes clear that Charles is clearly a pathologic narcissist who is incapable of caring about anyone other than himself. Diane suffers emotional abuse due to Charles’ behavior and at times it is horrifying. With the help of her father Dr. Pomerantz is able to escape, but for many others, that is not an option.
I believe this book could be a very good source of support and encouragement for anyone who is going through an abusive relationship or an unhappy marriage.
Dr. Diane Pomerantz is a clinical psychologist who has been in practice working with children, adolescents, and adults in the Baltimore, Maryland area for over thirty-five years. She has done extensive work in the area of trauma and child abuse and research in the area of personality development of abused children.
Dr. Pomerantz currently runs Healing Through Writing groups in her practice. She is a breast cancer survivor and has two wonderful grown children. She and her shaggy dog, Rug, live amidst tall trees on the outskirts of Baltimore, Maryland.
I received a complimentary paperback copy of this book from the publishers and BookSparks as part of the Magic of Memoir Blog Tour (#MagicofMemoir) in exchange for this post.